When men lose their mojo

Ask Tonic’s Coach Mar 2018

When men lose their mojo

By Rod Macdonald, Certified Coach Practitioner and Tonic’s Resident Coach

Q: I am a 50-year-old divorced man, and I feel like I am going through a “mid-life crisis.” Nothing is wrong; I just feel like I’ve lost my “mojo” and can’t seem to get it back.
-Jim

A: Jim, it is quite common for men to go through a time of reflection when they reach their 40s and 50s. This reflection is often because we’ve lived long enough to get the things done we were “supposed” to get done (career, home, family, etc.). However, there is sometimes a sense that something is missing and it may be that we haven’t self-actualized.

While these feelings are common, occasionally it can warrant a conversation with your family doctor. If you feel this is the case, or you’ve had any more severe symptoms, I encourage you to seek out that advice. In the meantime, there are a lot of things you can do to “get your mojo back.”

Is there something you’ve always wanted to do, but have put off? This is often the case with people in their 50s, and this is a great time to focus on your goals since you’ve spent so much time focused on other things. With a few exceptions, anything you want to accomplish is likely within your reach.

Are you exercising? Because many of us aren’t as physically active as we could be, we eventually experience a decrease in our mood as a result. You might be surprised that exercise has been found to be just as effective, and sometimes more effective than traditional treatments for mood disorders.

Are you eating well? Good nutrition can have a big impact on our mood and our energy. When you make even small changes to eat well, you might be surprised by how much more energy you have to do the things that create more passion in your life.

Are you spending quality time with people? Meaningful, authentic relationships are critical to staving off loneliness and enhancing mood. If you’ve become disconnected from friends over the years, take the time to reach out and get together for a coffee, or even get the “old gang” together for a weekend to reconnect.

Jim, when you take care of these and other aspects of yourself, you’ll experience a recharge of your energy and a renewed sense of self. You have another 30-50 years ahead of you, so take the time to set some new goals, focus on your needs, and you will discover a level of mojo that is even stronger than you have experienced before.

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Combining over 30 years in the field of self-development, Rod is the CEO of the Certified Coaches Federation, one of the largest coach education companies in the world, and a speaker, coach and author. For more information on the Certified Coaches Federation, visit www.certifiedcoachesfederation.com 

Want to ask Tonic’s Coach a question? Send a brief email to rod@certifiedcoachesfederation.com describing your challenge in 50 words or less, and one question will be selected per issue.

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